Since I haven’t seen any posts about it on Tumblr, I figured I’d make the post myself! #heardwhilstdisabled is a trending hashtag on twitter, has been on-and-off for awhile obviously, and it’s about the common, casual microagressions the disabled of all stripes have to deal with. It’s UK- and AU-based primarily from the looks of it but I would think it applies to most disabled people - I certainly know I’ve heard my share of this kind of ableism. Here’s more tweets (source is The Indepedant):
@DamonLord #heardwhilstdisabled “that’s so sad. That baby will grow up with a blind father. We should call Social Services on them” About me and my son
@Quinonostante #HeardWhilstDisabled: “mental illness could be eradicated though right?” Me: “how’d you mean?” The reply: “By sterilising people”
@Imbecillis #heardwhilstdisabled Person: “You don’t look disabled…” Me: “I’m sorry I didn’t realise the neon sign was compulsory these days.”
@RedRubyGem #heardwhilstdisabled My housebound daughter was told if she didn’t attend interview at job centre her benefits would be stopped
@lauraevans311 Learning about DMD [muscular dystrophy] – fellow med student: “If they’re only going to live that long, what’s the point in educating them?”#heardwhiledisabled
@major___tom ‘I don’t want to vaccinate my kids in case they end up autistic like you’ #heardwhiledisabled
@TwinsMa #Heardwhiledisabled “If you’d stop coddling him, he’d quit being so clingy.”– says a former pediatrician to me about my autistic son
@claireOT told I’m “a bloody disabled” by a taxi driver when refusing to pay an extra £2 to carry my scooter #heardwhiledisabled
@thebeardlessone “You won’t make any friends if you keep making noises” #heardwhiledisabled (Actually, he’s the only person to diss my tourettes to my face)
@latentexistence #HeardWhileDisabled While visiting psychiatrist for suicidal thoughts, in a wheelchair: “You just need to exercise more.”
@usherchic2 #heardwhiledisabled so do you just tell your guide dog the plan for the day in the morning & he sorts it all out? Me:……
@Geeketteuk “Hitler was wrong about the Jews but right about people like you” (thanks for not being anti-semitic !) #heardwhilstdisabled
@Fire_Rosa #heardwhilstdisabled At the Dentist with Husband and Carer, receptionist” What home do you come from?* my own?
@lizmcternan #heardwhilstdisabled at a buffet, me in wheelchair, helping blind friend choose: ‘You people take up so much room’
@PottsMcG #heardwhilstdisabled “Don’t stare at her, she’s not all there” as said about my 9 year old sister in law, who has down’s syndrome. Vile
@AvoidedDrowning Frequently been told off for using a walking stick because I’m “too young to need it” too #heardwhilstdisabled
@hypatia “you people shouldn’t use rush hour transport, it’s for people going to work”. (me in suit with backpack) #heardwhilstdisabled
@MatthewJFowler #heardwhilstdisabled. Your not albino you haven’t got red eyes
@sparklygoth #heardwhilstdisabled ‘You don’t look deaf.’ & that looks like what exactly?
@badfanfic “They’ll diagnose anyone with autism these days” – my doctor #heardwhilstdisabled
@CarrieBeckwith #heardwhilstdisabled “we don’t have a ramp cos we don’t get disabled customers” – prob cos they can’t get into our shop!
@Wheelchair_Dave #HeardWhilstDisabled Someone asked wife “Did you know when you married him 15 years ago, he may have an accident & become disabled”
@WTBDavidG #heardwhilstdisabled Office fire warden 3 “You’re so disabled we need you to wait before using stairs, but not so disabled u need an evac plan”
@Becca_Boot #heardwhilstdisabled bus driver lowering ramp “i don’t have to do this, im going out of my way to help you, you better behave on here”
@VictoriaMWright Man: “she.. (gestures at me) makes me wanna (makes vomitting sound)” #heardwhilstdisabled
@WelshWallace #HeardWhilstDisabled police officer to me after being mugged – your not going to be much help as your blind & not able to give a description
@MelG1804 When refused access to restaurant with guide dog, relative said they shouldn’t have to take dogs if they don’t want to. #heardwhilstdisabled
@touretteshero #heardwhilstdisabled I know what would cure you – an exorcism #Tourettes
@Beakboo #heardwhilstdisabled My Irish mother, when she saw an obviously disabled person, in a loud whisper “would you look at that poor creature”
@theeternal “I thought autism was only in children.”#heardwhilstdisabled
@ScottTweed #HeardWhilstDisabled my personal favourite was “if you’re mum had seen a medium when pregnant then you wouldn’t of been born disabled”
@cvonruhland #heardwhilstdisabled Elderly landlady: ‘Why do disabled people need ‘rights’? They’re disabled, aren’t they.’ Gobsmacked
@urbanhippie21 #HeardWhilstDisabled hubby, in a swanky Shoreditch bar – is there a disabled loo? Them – no. There’s no demand for one. Him – I’m demanding
@supermattachine #heardwhilstdisabled “Hahahaha it’s so funny when you freak out when I come up behind you”
My dad credits this as his favorite photo of me.
When I was younger, I was very socially anxious. I hated crowds, hated attention, hated being up on stage. In preschool there was this little Halloween show that we put on, and man, I did not want to do that shit, let me tell you. All those parents watching me sing some stupid song? Nah, that ain’t me.
But I was forced to, and I was pissed about it. My dad was in the audience, taking pictures and enjoying the show. In that moment, I swear, my tiny four year old was pure rage and resentment. I felt the word “fuck” years before I knew what it was.
My dad pointed the camera at me, and I turned, and I looked. I gave him the look that summed up all the anger, all the absolute fury that was brewing inside me. He says that he had never before seen such a perfect depiction of total and complete hatred. In his four year old son.
To this day whenever I get pissed, he calls me “Buzz Lightyear”.
I felt the word “fuck” years before I knew what it was.
reasons to date me
- no pressure to wear pants in my presence
- or any clothes at all really
- but it’s up to you
- u can be big spoon or little spoon
- totally your choice
- i’m always ready to make out
- also u don’t even have to buy me things just maybe an ice cream cone every once in a while that’s it
- i’ll let you lick it though
- i mean the ice cream cone
- well not just the ice cream cone